Daredevil Noir and blind sex

Apr 4, 2009

Daredevil Noir and blind sex

Apr 4, 2009

Okay, you’ve got to admit that the title of this post had you intrigued. First of all, the part about the blind sex has nothing to do with Daredevil Noir. Unless Alex Irvine has included something about Matt having sex in his four-issue mini series. Anyway, that’s not something I would know anything about. All I know is that there’s a Daredevil Noir #1 preview here and an interview with writer Alex Irvine here, both from Comic Book Resources.

Okay, now that that’s covered, let’s move on to the real reason Dakota found Matt so irresistible. Apparently, she’s bought into the same myth that fueled this report (dated April 1): That blind people are insanely good in bed. We can only wonder if the experience lived up to her expectations. Thanks to my friend and fellow fan Alice for sending me this!

Blindness and Sexuality:
Researching Myths and Facts Summary Report:
Distributed by: National Data Distribution Center (NDDC)
April 1, 2009, Atlanta Georgia

The two hundredth anniversary of the birth of Louis Braille is being celebrated by the US mint with the production of a silver coin commemorating the man who created the modern reading system used by many blind people. Unfortunately, although blind people work and live normal lives, they are still different in many ways and their experiences are a matter of curiosity amongst the sighted population. For most of us, the question, “What is it like to be blind?,” has entered our minds more than once.

Research, some of it useful and much of it not, about how people who are blind perceive the world, abounds. One of the more interesting topics of study is sexuality among the blind. The story goes that blind people are incredible sexual partners–somehow being extremely sensitive to their partners and, being able to stimulate them far more than the average person.

Masters and Johnson were so intrigued by this subject that they collected data over several years from those who had had sex with blind people. Surprisingly, what they thought would be myths, turned out to be true. The results were stunning. On average, women rated their blind partners 9.1 on a scale of 10. The average rating was five for sighted partners.

“This research has been duplicated several times,” says Mary Roach, author of 2008 best seller Bonk: the Curious Coupling of Science and Sex. The data hasn’t attracted much attention because blindness is such a low incidence event. “We usually print things that have broad interest. And, even though this indicates that blind people are incredibly sexual, there aren’t really enough of them to go around.”

Comments from sighted partners were astounding. “He seemed like he knew my soul,” from a 23 year old female. “Her tongue knew just how to touch every part of me if you know what I mean,” from a college male. One woman commented, “The things he could do with his fingers were beyond description,” in this survey. “It’s not that he was built bigger than other men, it just seemed like he touched me inside with it all over,” she said with a shy smile.

When William Masters was asked, in a 1971 interview, why he didn’t draw more attention to these findings he said, “I didn’t know anything about blindness. We were publishing information of general interest about sexuality and this just didn’t fit that mold. Perhaps some day researchers will help us understand why blind people have such incredible sexual capacities and we’ll be able to use that information to increase the abilities of others. Until then, a very few lucky men and women will experience the phenomena of sex with a blind person.”

There is a downside to this research. When interviewed, blind people generally expressed frustration about sexuality. Broadly speaking, they divided sighted people into three groups. First is the group who simply want to have sex with them for the thrill and experience of it. “We feel used,” was the most common thing reported. Second, was the group who simply couldn’t see themselves with a blind husband or wife. “They want to be with us, but don’t see us as fathers and mothers, for example,” was often heard. The third group were those who “get it” as one blind man put it. “They can see beyond blindness and accept us for who we are. Blindness just fades into the background and becomes another characteristic. “

The sad truth is that although blind people work, raise families, travel independently and generally speaking, live normal lives, the public perception is the opposite. The image of the helpless beggar still lurks in our minds. Sighted people report that the fear of blindness overwelms their rationality. “I know that I shouldn’t let blindness interfere with how I think about my partner, but, I can’t help it,” said a young college student engaged to a blind physicist working at NASA. “Yes, he has money, and yes, he’s sexy, and oh, my god, can he please me, if you know what I mean. The hardest thing is getting over this image of him as a helpless blind man. We sail, bike ride and horse back ride. I can’t think of anything he can’t do except drive, but, I’ll admit, the image of a helpless blind man still haunts me. People look at him with such pity and I just want to scream, ‘You don’t get it you fools.'” But she admits that making the decision to marry is difficult.

Chad, a young blind college student says he finds the whole sex thing a bit distracting. “Sure I can please women more than my sighted friends can, and frankly, it’s because they just don’t pay attention to women and what their bodies and hearts are saying. Women will tell you everything you need to know if you just listen and feel.”

We give you all of this information with the caveat that perhaps only one in six thousand people is an eligible blind man or woman, so, happy searching.

1 Comment

  1. Gloria

    Interesting post… And thanks to you and Alice!

    I’d say that a blind person is less prejudiced than a sighted one when it comes to, hum, love… For instance: in High School, a (sighted) boy will dream with her class’ bimbo, and the (sighted) girl will sigh for the class’ jock (all right, heterosexual examples, but I’m afraid the gay/lesbian equivalents would be similar)… On the other hand, a blind student may value the plain looking girl or boy for reasons other than their external appearance, like their smell, their voices, the way they express themselves. In short, the blind person here will be more sensible about the how the person acyually is than how that person’s external appearance is.

    For the blind person’s partner, also, I guess that it can be relaxing to be with a person you like and not be concerned about what he/she thinks about what you’re wearing, how’s your hair, etc… Silly as it sounds, attending to a date with your best shots only to get a snarky comment about your hair by your beau can be terribly off-putting.

    That having been said… Why does Matt always has affairs with spectacularly beauteous dames? Paraphrasing my dearest Mr. Nelson, I wonder why Murdock always goes for the super-model type… Must be his enhanced super-senses.

    Because, honest, having Matt involved with someone who isn’t a “hot” superwoman (and, hey, I just dig Dakota) could be refreshing. I wonder why, in the DCverse, Nightwing and Oracle can be lovers but not Matt and Becky Blake in the Marvelverse.


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